Apr 03 2009
Should I be ok with my girlfriend hanging with guys?
Hey all, Need help on this one. Before I got with my girlfreind lets say she got around a bit. Then when we got together she cut all of that out. So there was no problems until about 2 months ago. We have been dating for a year. It started when she wanted to start hangin out with her freinds when I was not around, Again almost everyone of her freinds are guys and more than likely she hooked up with them. I told her it was ok to hang when them but I didnt want her to make it a everyday thing. Well it has became an everyday thing. Im carless and cant make it to see her alot. So thinks im over reacting about it and says i should trust her that she aint going to do anything with them. Of course I get mad and dont agree. She said its not right for to have to stay home just cause im not there. I dont care that she hangs out with them but its an all day thing. She gets back home at like 4 or 5 am. So my question is am I in the wrong. Is there a fair soultion to this. Or should I get over it and learn to trust her. I dont think it has anythin to do with trust. I feel like if she diddo something then its kinda my faultfor even taking the chance to let her do what ever she wants. Please help on this 1.
If you lived together, getting home at that hour constantly would be a little much. But if you don’t live together you can’t monitor her every move. If she wants to be with you, she will. The more you try to tell her what to do the more it’s going to chase her away. If you don’t live with her, try to see her as often as you can so she knows you really care about her.